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The confusion of anxious attachment
Anxious Attachment or Ambivalent attachment can be directly associated with Childhood C-PTSD or aTrauma comorbidity , you ever wondered why there's certain people that seem stuck in a never-ending cycle of negative relationship. Ever expecting the partner of their dreams, yet an anxious feeling occurs, and abandonment often arises. The harder they work to achieve the perfect relationship the further they are pushed away from the people that they love. Bing pushed away from someone that is cherished and loved can be truly confusing and hurtful. There can be so many variables as to why these relationships don't last.
Usually, stories form while people struggle to understand why? The stories evolve into a stable source or entrapment, such as the words “I’m not good enough, who am I, I’m lost, I’m unlovable” This line of thinking can limit the ability for a person to move on and grow into a more whole, strong individual and have the sincere and loving relationship they deserve.
If this is occurring to you, I can sincerely say that you're not alone here, I recognise your pain and none of this can define you as a person. What is occurring here is a series of outdated learned behaviours it has nothing to do with your value as a person. The good news is that if they are just behaviours in how we relate to the world then we can learn new ways of doing things and achieve a stable healthy loving environment that a partner can feel safe and connected to.
By working on ourselves through therapy we start to attract the right people into our lives in-tuned with our needs and values.
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